All the World Loves a Lover

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Dear Friends,

Valentine’s Day is the one holiday that is devoted to Love, plain and simple – to Cupid, and to romantic love expressed between human beings. Most of us have experienced this kind of love at least once in our lives, and hopefully much more than that. The most fortunate have actually found a partner who supports them throughout their life in the earthly realm. To be complete, such love is always reciprocal, and mutually beneficial.

Love is truly that which “makes the world go round.” The world would be a pretty miserable place without it. And yet even such admirable cases of mutual love are not always as pure as they might be – they involve “conditions.” Examples include cases of jealousy, or a possessive “love” that more resembles a form of barter, in which one chooses to love only if certain conditions are met. In fact, the real world of couples’ relationships all too often involves adapting self-serving conditions between the two. Such relationships fail to offer the reward of significant mutual benefit.

A “purer” form of love, less involved with conditions and such apparent barter, might be seen between parents and children. It’s easy to love newborn babies in all their fresh innocence, but babies grow up into teenagers, and so on. Ideally, parents love their children “no matter what,” and offer compassion, kindness, and all manner of support even in the face of lesser human failings.

I submit that the rarer, more extraordinary examples of mutually beneficial unconditional love are far more satisfying and fulfilling than the conditional love so often found in relationships. We cultivate far richer relationships as we become less egocentric and take a bigger view of who we are and why we are here. In addition, we come to see that no soul is an island – we grow tremendously and more fully satisfy our purpose as humans when we develop a loving relationship with another person that demands no conditions at all.

This Valentine’s Day, I suggest taking a bigger view of how our relationships in life help to serve a rich purpose in our soul growth, in getting right at the heart of why we even exist. Ideally, that bigger view includes no “conditions,” and thus also broadens the relationships that contribute to our learning and growth. Let that broader unconditional love first and foremost include yourself, because so many of the world’s problems result from the fact that we don’t even love ourselves enough – not in a selfish, childish fashion, but in a sense that acknowledges the divinely sourced beings we all are; not dependent upon the approval or affection of others, but centered in the unique value of your soul and its connections. Then allow that unconditional love to spread, to include truly loving all souls. Such unconditional love has infinite power to heal, whether the individual, or the whole world. And any relationship is an ideal place to start in assessing the power such love without conditions can truly have.

So, Happy Valentines Day! Use this special time to start delving into the benefits of unconditional love. “All the world loves a lover” has never been truer than in the case of one who loves without demanding some favor in return.

With much Love and gratitude to all,

Eben

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  1. Osakura
    Osakura says:

    Dear Dr. Alexander,
    I love your “Proof of Heaven” book. My boyfriend broke up with me right before Valentine’s Day. I realized that indeed, it takes a lot to love a person unconditionally. I found myself broken-hearted, unwanted, unloved. All the “I love you” he said to me seems meaningless as how it can be so easy to walk away if it were true love. I feel as if my heart was pierced with thorns. Even so, my heart still loves him and wishes him all the happiness in life. And from then, I learned to love him more freely, openly and unconditionally. During the midst of suffering, pain and afflictions, I’ve been listening to your book and found a great comfort and hope. It gives me a lot of hope and confidence that as long as I continue to cultivate love and compassion, I will be fine, whether it will be reciprocal or not. Because God loves me and God doesn’t abandon me.
    Thank you so much Dr. Alexander! You’ve helped me a lot throughout my journey…
    God bless you always!

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  2. Margaret Coles
    Margaret Coles says:

    Thank you Dear Eben to such a precious message. Because we are all so different, our karma’s are complex and so interconnected with a conglomeration of intent, inspiration, attitudes, deceptions, it can take many lifetimes for the “penny to drop” As a species we are under the influence and nuance where others were and still are. It is a journey of discovering how honest we think we can be about ourselves as well as others. It is not easy to love everyone, the Light only switches on, when we begin to be honest with ourselves and not hold the attitude of, “Well, I would not do this or that” Oh yeah! We have all been down that road and with the freedom of choice, rattle on in the same vibration, until our soul opens a door to let the light in, which according to one’s actions and intent can be a catalystic event. I am reading a book,” The Transformative Power of Near-Death Experiences” put together by Dr Penny Sartori and Kelly Walsh. The one word that embraces these experiences is Love and each one read in this book and those like it, well, I just well up. with a sense of companionship and identification. What a privilege we have to be living this incarnation, at this time. As usual, much love and blessings. Margaret.

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